ADHD Couples Counselling
Are you struggling to maintain a healthy relationship due to ADHD challenges?
Is a “parent/child dynamic” stealing your connection and making you both feel resentful and unappreciated?
Do you feel like your partner doesn’t understand you, or vice versa?
If so, working with ADHD Couples Counsellor/Coach is a way for you to strengthen your relationship and navigate ADHD challenges together.
The Importance of Understanding ADHD in Couples Counselling
It’s important to understand that ADHD can have a significant impact on relationships.
It can create communication barriers, increase stress levels, increase emotional reactivity and cause misunderstandings that can negatively affect the relationship.
That’s why it’s important to work with a professional who understands ADHD and its impacts. Couples therapists who lack this understanding may not be able to identify ADHD-related issues. This may inadvertently cause further harm to the relationship.
How ADHD Couples Counselling can help
ADHD Couples Counselling is tailored to meet the unique needs of couples impacted by ADHD. Providing a safe, non-judgmental space where couples can explore the challenges they face and develop strategies to overcome them.
- Understand how ADHD impacts your relationship
- Improve communication skills and conflict management
- Develop strategies to manage ADHD symptoms
- Strengthen friendship, intimacy and emotional connection
- Address the balance of the relationship so both partners are contributing in a way that suits their strengths
Here’s what a client had to say…
The evidence-based success of Gottman Method
Gottman Couples Therapy is a research-based approach to relationship therapy that was developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The approach is grounded in over 40 years of research on what makes relationships work and what causes them to break down.
The Gottmans have observed thousands of couples in their lab, tracking their behaviours and interactions. This allowed them to identify key predictors of relationship success and failure.
The Gottman Couples Therapy approach is highly effective because it focuses on helping couples develop skills to improve communication, manage conflict, and deepen intimacy.
The Gottman Method is designed to support couples across all economic, racial, sexual orientation, and cultural sectors.
Here’s what a client had to say…
We had a great experience with Rachel, even though we were having challenging conversations. Rachel was always supportive, compassionate and professional. She listened carefully and was highly skilled at keeping us focused on our goal.
Here’s what a client had to say…
I went into the sessions with little hope for my marriage and now have hope and my partner to help build a relationship again. Rachel is masterful in bringing us back to the point and out of our own heads.
The Structure – 8 session Package
1st session (longer session) – A joint session where we discuss the relationship history and a bit of background on you both.
Then you both complete the online questionnaire “Gottman Relationship Checkup” which provides comprehensive data on the relationship’s strengths and challenges. You will receive this log-on information after the first session and you will need to both complete at least 24 hours before the first individual session.
These assessments are confidential and are for my viewing only.
2nd & 3rd sessions are individual sessions with each partner.
4th session Feedback & getting started
5th – 8th sessions and beyond – In this phase, we work on strategies that are designed to strengthen friendship, intimacy, conflict management and the management of ADHD symptoms that are impacting the relationship. Couples learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and begin to create shared meaning and purpose in their relationship. Throughout the counselling, ADHD understanding and education will take place as required.
We will reassess at the 8th session where we are at and what level of support is required. I recommend tapering off rather than an abrupt stop so shifting to fortnightly, then monthly etc.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are your Qualifications?
I’m an ADHD Coach and Registered Counsellor (Australian Counselling Association) who specialises in working with adults and couples impacted by ADHD and neurodivergence.
As a coach, I’m credentialed by both the International Coaching Federation (ICF) and the Professional Association of ADHD Coaches (PAAC), holding PCC and CACP certifications. I completed my ADHD-specific coach training through MentorCoach (USA) and have logged over 2,000 hours working with individuals and couples impacted by ADHD.
In my counselling work I have a particular interest in relationships and couples. I’ve completed Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 2), Assessing and Treating Sex Issues in Psychotherapy (ATSIP Level 1), the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and Relational Life Therapy.
I also integrate Internal Family Systems (IFS) into my work. My training includes a range of experiential programs, including IFS Institute training in working with neurodivergence and Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO), which applies IFS principles to couples therapy. I continue to deepen this work through ongoing consultation, continued professional development, and my own personal IFS therapy.
Alongside my professional training, I also bring lived experience. My husband, daughter, and brother have ADHD, and many of my family members and friends are neurodivergent. While I am not diagnosed with ADHD myself, I have my own experiences of navigating traits and challenges that overlap with neurodivergence.
These personal connections deepen my understanding and empathy for the experiences many of my clients bring into our work together.
Do I need to have a formal diagnosis?
Not at all! You don’t need a formal ADHD diagnosis to benefit from coaching. Since ADHD presents differently in everyone, I tailor my approach to suit you—your unique needs, circumstances, and goals.
I’m happy to work with people who suspect they might have ADHD, are in the process of seeking a diagnosis, or simply identify with some ADHD-like traits. Together, we’ll focus on practical strategies to help you thrive.
Do you work with couples?
Yes, I do—this is an area I specialize in. ADHD can place significant strain on relationships, and having a skilled professional to mediate and foster understanding can make a world of difference.
As a registered counsellor with the Australian Counselling Association, I have completed Level 2 Gottman Couples Therapy Clinical Training, bringing a research-based approach to my work with couples. In addition, I have trained in multiple modalities, including the Developmental Model, Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS & IFIO) and Assessing and Treating Sex Issues in Psychotherapy (ATSIP) Level 1, allowing me to take an integrative approach tailored to each couple’s needs.
My work focuses on improving communication, managing conflict, building emotional regulation skills, and strengthening emotional connection. I also support couples in their parenting journey, helping them align their parenting styles and goals to create a more cohesive and supportive family dynamic.
Do you work with children?
In my experience as coaching is goal-oriented and self-directed, I have found for children it is better to work with the parent assisting them to then work with their child.
Teens however can find coaching very empowering. Teens are going through the process of individualisation and therefore usually highly value the need to be autonomous. Coaching can be a powerful way for them to have their desire for independence met while still getting the support and guidance they often need.
Having said that, working with teens is not my area of specialty.
Do you offer Face to Face sessions?
At this time I am not able to offer face to face sessions.
What if I am not happy with the coaching experience?
Coaching is a collaborative process, if you feel you are not getting value from the experience then you are welcome to cancel. If you have paid for a package a refund can be organised for the unused portion.
What are your Fees?
My current rate is
$165 per session for individuals including GST
$189 per session for couples including GST
Book a time to chat and find out more information - you have one life to live, it's time to make the most of it.
Hi, my name is Rachel Daldry (PCC, CACP, DipCouns), ADHD Coach and Counsellor.
I am an ADHD Coach and Couples Counsellor, helping people work with their brain to create the life they want to live.
My journey with ADHD began in 2017 when my daughter was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 8. This led me to explore ADHD, brain science, and psychology.
I began by supporting others who were feeling overwhelmed, something I understood deeply myself. That experience sparked a desire to help people move from feeling defeated to feeling more empowered, and led me to train as a coach in 2021.
As my work grew, I noticed that many of the challenges clients faced were also showing up in their relationships, particularly with their partner. This led me to further my training as a registered counsellor, so I could support both the individual and the relationship.
I now work with adults with ADHD and couples, helping them find their flow, work through challenges, and build more connected, sustainable relationships.
My approach combines practical coaching with deeper therapeutic work, supporting clients to learn strategies while also understanding and shifting the patterns that drive their reactions.
As a Registered Counsellor, I have a strong interest in working with couples and have trained in a range of approaches, including Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 2), Assessing and Treating Sex Issues in Psychotherapy (ATSIP), Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
I also have a particular interest in Internal Family Systems (IFS), which supports clients to better understand themselves and shift long-standing patterns.
I am an International Coaching Federation (ICF) credentialed coach and a Professional Association of ADHD Coaches (PAAC) credentialed ADHD coach.
I prioritise ongoing professional development, as I believe no single approach suits every person or situation.
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Here’s what a client had to say…
